Sublime, Comporta; A Portuguese Dream

If you’re seeking a serene escape from the everyday, one beautifully immersed in nature + surrounded by peace, Comporta could be your next retreat from it all. Nestled along the stunning Atlantic coastline, the tranquil coastal village in Portugal, renowned for its untouched natural beauty + relaxed, bohemian vibe is on the verge of becoming one of the next once hidden gems to be transformed by the demands + desires of tourists seeking something previously untouched + pristinely charming.

The region, about an hours drive from Lisbon, is distinguished by its sprawling rice paddies, immaculate dunes, + endless stretches of immaculate golden beaches that seem to stretch on forever. Framed from the West by the deep + authoritative immense blue of the Atlantic, it’s unspoiled landscape creates the perfect get away for those who love the type of escape that not only allows for but encourages a full unwind.

We visited late May to early June; a birthday surprise from my husband upon which he caught me off guard with a stay at Sublime Comporta, a retreat that had been high on my wish-list since it’s opening in 2014 when it was just a small rural boutique. A wish-list hotel for good reason, Sublime is a destination in + of itself that literally doesn’t require you to leave for anything once you arrive in the exquisiteness of it’s perimeters. Exceeding our expectations by a mile, to explain it were it to possess it’s own personality, Sublime is that of a nonconformist, the cool younger sister who, considered rebellious + disruptive, swopped college for a life of travel without the guarantee of a secure job so as to follow her own dreams doing something cool + off the beaten track + who now, well guess what, is the one having the best time while people seek to mirror her every move + escape their ‘guaranteed’ conformist lives.

Amid all the cool, the true essence of Sublime is that it’s as respectful of its surrounds as one could be while also being incredibly chic. As natural as it remains, chic definitely leads the way here as it’s every element is considered, curated + polished for those who understand how design plays such an integral role in the way we feel in any environment. it is that personified. The interiors combine a minimalist founding with the warmth of something very personal, cultivating a sense of peace + a sort of familiarity one can only really sene when home. As part of it's unintentional cool, Sublime embraces a truthful practice of sustainable living, from the eco-friendly materials used in its construction to the local produce served at every meal + it’s clear it was built with a deep respect for, not only the land, but also the community upon which is lays.

We took finding peace quite seriously while there; taking full advantage of the the amenities available that all but spoke to us as a couple; working out in the beautiful gym with classes outside on the rooftop space, playing tennis + taking walks + long cycles in the grounds. A treatment in the spa with Ground, the Irish well-being brand I’ve loved since it began + founded by my darling friend Peigin Crowley in Cork + am so proud to see leading the treatment menu as the main collection of products on offer. Later, we would sit among one of the many spaces available within which to read, write, do some work on our laptops or simply just be. It’s a place like no other to find yourself simply being. We left the property just a few times, once of great note was to attend dinner in Xtian for my birthday. Xtian is the restaurant in Vermelho Hotel, the luxury boutique hotel just a short drive away in nearby Melides designed + owned by Christian Louboutin which was such a special evening + somewhere we’re return to without a second of hesitation.

Needless to say, we really could have extended our stay + would have in a heartbeat but as life called us back to the road, it was clear that upon leaving we departed with a knowing that Sublime + this part of the world would become one of our places, one filled with peaceful memories + so much space for the making of so many more.

Visit sublimecomporta.pt to explore more —

Creativity or Control? It’s Up To Us..

Recently we spent time with beautiful friends in Connecticut where we visited Grace Farms, an incredible sanctuary focusing on the principles of faith, nature, art, community + justice. The River Building, designed by Sanaa Architects weaves its way through the landscape like with a respect that bows ever so eloquently to the beauty of its surroundings. Experiencing such beauty amid the merging of two strongly existing worlds, that which is man made + all that is so much bigger than anything we could ever create, I couldn't help but come back to the idea of truthful creativity + what it means to me amid a world controlled so deeply by algorithmic commands.

Slower story telling where untreated vulnerability, messy kinds of beautiful along with the raw + exposing emotion of the creator is something I just love as a human; it’s something I can’t help but forever feel drawn back to as though a magnetic force is pulling me home. Expression where an over arching tale is portrayed through reflective narratives in the written word along with slower style aesthetics is something I feel protective of, especially now in this algorithmic world.

As someone who innately loves to create beautiful things + can’t help but understand the world around me + life in general through the detailed + potential beauty in the tiniest of places, the idea of algorithmic pressure is something I just can’t vibe to. I’ve been considering it more + more of late. The truth is, the way the algorithm works simply doesn’t allow for or encourage truthful storytelling but rather a specifically altered rendering of any such narrative so as to ensure the reward of further growth or recognition externally. The growth born of pleasing the algorithm is ultimately determined by this crazy (like it’s bizarrely controlling when you think about it) authoritative ‘thing’ that’s now so much bigger than us all; something I see as an aggressive discouragement of the beauty of creative processes. And while I really do get it, as certain parts of my own work very much plays into it’s now firm place in the world + actually relies on it’s power, it’s just such a sad reality that threads itself through absolutely everything now. Yet with a deep love of creativity, I seek to stop myself bowing to it’s being, for as I’ve found myself in so much self-doubt these past few years within my own creativity, always questioning myself + double checking as to whether I should share, what I should share, how, what time.. should I even share.., the self-doubt can be utterly crippling. I no longer want to feel paralysed by that incapacitating reality that the algorithm has been in some way subconsciously been controlling my creative flow. And so I stop myself. For real this time. Because the reality is, it’s here, existing with a very firm presence in our everyday world now. And it will continue to reward those who satisfy its demands; demands that, once fed + nurtured, grants itself even more control over us as individuals. Yet, in true me style, I just can’t help but question, what the actual F was I thinking letting that fear stop me from creatively expressing myself, unencumbered + with the self authority I hold in so many other parts of my being.

Creating to me is about the process not how fast it will be consumed or how many times it will be viewed. We are all creative beings, each of us communicating in various ways every single day; it’s the simple idea of bringing something into existence that wasn’t previously there. That is creation. And while I’m in no way saying that dancing on TikTok isn’t creative, as it very much is, it’s the idea that what we create + how we share it is now so strongly, however subconsciously, dictated by the algorithm + how it’s established a new ‘normal’ of the human attention span in recent years. Continuing to create to it’s demands means we are fundamentally + forever changing our natural ways of expression. What becomes of that? Something that’s yours though, shared because it brought YOU joy or simply shared because it’s the only way you know how to express yourself - the only way to connect to the world is perhaps what we could come back to again? What if we just created + shared what made us happy again? What if we respected the time it requires to read something in long format? (Like heyyyy if you’ve taken the time to click through to this page + made it through to the end of this article). What if we held ourselves accountable to retain the attention required to soak up something beautiful, whatever it’s format, even if it is past the 8.25 seconds that the algorithm has now deemed our capacity for conscious observation.

I love seeing people create beauty - whatever the form. But the truth is I’m not so much a TikTok chick. I just can’t vibe to the continued fast paced scrolling it encourages, regardless of the reverberating sound of people repeating “it’s where the growth is”. But is it where the actual attention or long term work is that translates into a sale or a lifelong customer, reader, community member? I love what now seems like an old world approach to creation : beautiful imagery + shorter video, brought to life + supported by words that mean something to me. Maybe I’m showing my age but I can’t buy into the fast paced world of the more, more, more; the pressure that threads itself through every aspect of how we live now - be that for brand, content creators or just simply humans For a long time it’s felt so confusing, I’ve felt like I don’t fit into the world of content creators as they grow from strength to strength within a world I know can often feel like a massive pressure.

But imagine if we created not for the reception it may receive or in order to place it within the workings of the authority the algorithm now commands but for what lights us up from the inside out? Imagine the world we might leave behind? I’m continuously exploring this as an individual + I hope that in reading this, we might do so together.

Visit —— GRACE FARMS

Katie England, The Skin Goddess

This past year while traveling over + back to London to see clients, I started seeing Katie England, the extraordinary facialist come all round beautiful human who.. let’s just say KNOWS skin like no one else I’ve ever met. My best friend introduced me to Katie’s brilliance who, for the past number of years, has held a residency at the Nomad Hotel in Covent Garden in London where clients travel from all over the world to book in for a Katie England experience.

In meeting Katie + understanding her ethos + energy I put my trust in her immediately. We have been working on my skin each time I’m in London + each time I realize I feel somewhat more confident now to leave the house sans makeup, it reinforces my belief that seeing Katie has become one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. As someone who has always felt incredibly uncomfortable in my skin, self-conscious of how red it can be, I am not joking when I say, I feel like that girl who actually glows when she comes out of a treatment - ok like relatively speaking to that girl but I feel better than I ever have.

Katie is more than a master of what she does though, she is one of the most beautiful souls; a gentle + kind presence that welcomes you into her world with an aura bursting with love for her clients + a passion for + knowledge of the far reaching + often highly-generalised topic of skin health. Understanding the complexity of lifestyles + the effect our entire lives can have on our skin, Katie delves deeper than anyone, knowing the health of our skin is about so much more than any one thing.

Thanks to BYONIK, Buccal, Lymphatic Drainage + Katie’s ever evolving mastery, the progress I’m beginning to feel with my skin is all thanks to Katie, her magic hands + expert recommendations. Working with many different approaches + techniques, Katies creates bespoke treatments for each client depending on your specific needs + skin goals, looking at your overall plan with the foundational knowing that there is no overnight success with anyone’s journey to healthier skin + that gaining confidence in it comes of course with the help of treatments but just as much the self-discipline to do the “homework” between sessions so that her work is even more beneficial when you’re in session with her.

I cannot recommend Katie enough + for you or anyone you know who can book in while in London, this is the perfect gift to yourself that will continue to feel good long after you admire your skin in the mirror.

Discover your next facial with Katie + her team —— KATIE-ENGLAND.com

The Weekend Edit 05

The  PODCAST  // “The Retrievals’ is a podcast about dozens of women seeking to become mothers who all came to a fertility clinic at Yale. A (five-part) narrative series about the shocking events that unfolded there + the aftermath of a tragedy that should never have happened. Warning, it is really quite upsetting but also just feels important.

The  DOCUMENTARY  // Miss Americana. On a recent trip to the US I was indoctrinated into the world + obsession of Taylor Swift. I mean, I’d listened to her music before - her RED album - was deinfiely one of my on-repeat albums when it came out, but before this trip + seeing the concert of her ERAS tour in the movie theatre, I was simply a blazé fan from a far. NOW though, all I want is to listen to her music. Miss Americana definitely gives somewhat of an insight into her world + who she is as a person beyond the fame; a hard-working, badass, incredibly talented woman + I kiiiind of understand the hype now.

The  ARTICLE //  ‘Self-Respect: It’s Source, It’s Power’ by Joan Didion as first published in Vogue in 1961 + which was later republished as ‘On Self-Respect’ in her 1968 collection of essays, ‘Slouching Towards Bethlehem’. I’ve always loved Didion’s work + reading this piece from such an early moment in her career really solidifies how she was a talent from the start. I come back to it often.

The  MOVIE // May December. I loved this! And I must mention Priscilla, a really important portrayal of a woman’s story, especially of someone who’s truth was mostly shadowed by her husband, Elvis’s success + talent. I really love when women help other women give such far-reaching narrative to their stories, Sofia Coppola does this so excellently here. You can find my movie lists here : LIST I + LIST II

The BOOK // The Postcard by Anne Berest. One of the most recent books I finished + absolutely loved. It’s a true story but reads like fiction in the most humanly heart breaking kind of way. I absolutely recommend. You can find all the books I read in 2023 on my recent article HERE.

THE WELL-BEING PRACTICES // I’ve been getting back to my exercise really consistently lately which is something I absolutely love. Weight training is of great consequence for me, it’s the only way I ever feel truly in shape both mentally + physically.

I am also really enjoying ceremonial grade cacao most evenings at the moment. My dear friend Nichola of (athbhreith.le.nic) introduced me to the power of cacao a few years back + it’s been part of my world on + off ever since. Finding comfort in something compassionate at the end of the day can have a really impactful effect, bringing a positive moment of unwind + I often journal while sitting with my cacao. Nichola is a practitioner, trained by the OG of the ancient healing practice, Keith’s Cacao + also works as a breath-work teacher. I cannot recommend her work enough. A beautiful soul with a powerful healing touch. I also add Anima Mundi Ashwagandha to the mix - getting Ashwagandha into my routine on the regular really helps with anxiety + overall progress with my health. It acts as an adaptogenic working over time to allow the body + mind deal with stress. I get mine from Lemuria - another of my absolute favourite online wellness destinations. Think crystal paradise meets the most bliss edit of beauty + wellness brands for you to feast on.

The PLACE // Right now, it’s anywhere I can immerse myself fully in nature. I’ve been going for beautiful walks + forgot for a second of being distracted by work + life how much I just love + actually really crave time IN nature, like being fully in its embrace. Being there each day consecutively for a few, it feels like I’ve come home.

The BRAND // KOMI Studios is a London-designed + manufactured athleisure wear brand that I came across last year + is launching it’s new collection in the coming weeks which I cannot wait for. I’ve been so in love with the brands whole ethos + aesthetic, the founders integral understanding of the female body means the fit of all pieces, from the insanely slick one pieces + shorts to the tops + leggings are all just so on point, designed + created to utter perfection. The brand, until now has been on the more colourful side in it’s tone but the full new collection is all in black + I just cannot wait.

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The Books I Read in 2023

I’ve always been a big reader but in recent years I’d been fighting with myself to make it part of my world in the way it had once been so naturally the centre of my personal time. So my goal this past year was to read more books than I had done in 2022. A simple aim yet without the massively unrealistic internal strain I tend to put on myself around goals. And guess what? it worked. Without that massive pressure I made it happen by choosing to read instead of watching TV in the evenings (although I am definitely not admitting here that TV was not a part of our Winter evenings). And it’s been such a joy today to look back on what I read this year. So in no particular order of reading or most enjoyed, below is my 2023 book list..

What books did you read +/or love in 2023?

Vanessa Cornell, Founder of NUSHU; The Interview

With NUSHU, there’s something quite different. You can sense it from any + all interactions with the woman’s support network which runs as a community rooted in compassion, care, non-judgement + an unwavering deep belief in the innate strength we all possess within.

NUSHU was founded by Vanessa Cornell in New York City + has quickly become a safe space for people to connect in a very authentic + soulful way. I’ve been blessed to attend some groups + can attest to the beauty of it all. People aren’t there to be fixed but rather, at quite a profound level, held, heard + their stories as women credited without initial doubt or question. NUSHU is a place where you are believed + believed in, not to mention truly truly seen. The human need to feel validated, especially in this ever evolving yet isolating world we now live in, is fully palpable in the air of these past few years + NUSHU, as nurtured by the directional vision of Vanessa is quickly becoming the go-to safe place for women to find themselves within the tribe.

Here, I speak to Vanessa about how she identifies who she is at her core, her own personal journey within the need to validate herself solely for herself, all while still being all things to all aspects of her world.

HSF — Vanessa, tell us, beyond the roles we all play + often find placed upon us as we move through different stages of life - from mother, daughter, wife, friend, lover, founder, entrepreneur - who are you? Who is Vanessa at a soul level?

VC — I’m super curious. After spending my life chasing other peoples’ goals of success in school and at work, I realized the only thing that is going to keep me engaged and fascinated for the rest of my life is the study of the inner workings of human beings. I’m endlessly fascinated by what motivates us, why we make the choices we make, and what it is we’re supposed to be doing on this earth and the one short lifetime we’ve been given. I’m interested in other people but mostly I study myself. The insights gain, and being really really honest with myself about myself, end up being helpful to other people.

HSF — What do you consider your mission in this life?

VC — I’m still trying to determine this. Every day I ask myself this question. But my approach might be slightly different than others.  I really believe that that question of what we’re supposed to do in our life is exactly the same question as who we are. Who are we, truly, at our core, before we built up our defenses and our coping strategies that disconnect us from our deep inner knowing and our innate divinity? If we can discover that, then I believe what we’re supposed to do becomes very obvious. 

HSF — One of your beautiful gifts to the world so far is the creation of community + connection within the NUSHU container - for those new to NUSHU, can you please tell us about it + how it came to be..

VC — NUSHU came from a need to explore all of my inner questions with other people, in community. I had this intense energy to explore my inner landscape and a deep knowing that this work isn’t supposed to be done in isolation.  

What I find really fascinating is this interplay between the fact that no one can do your work for you, but at the same time you can’t do it without other people. Essentially you are the only one who can find your answers in your self exploration. Only you can walk your path of healing and discovery. No one can tell you who you are or what to do. However, this solo work is not possible without a community around you. So it’s important to understand that you’re both completely in charge of your own process + also that it is not possible to do it alone.

HSF — Clearly creating + nurturing connections is a huge part of the NUSHU community. In a world where connections seem so readily available via the digitalisation of what links us; yet often in reality the authenticity of it all is becoming more fleeting. How can people nourish truthful connection + the link to others we really need as humans both IRL + online?

VC — There is a big difference between feeling deeply connected to people + simply being surrounded by people. You can have tons of people in your life + still feel incredibly lonely. The difference between true connection + merely brushing up against people is your willingness to actually show yourself to them. If you are not showing them your true self, then they are in relationship with your avatar, not you. If you are pretending, putting up a good front, or only showing the pretty, shiny sides of yourself, you can never be in true intimacy with someone because the person that they’re in a relationship with is not actually you. It takes a combination of courage + discernment, to be able to show people all sides of you, especially the messy, less flattering sides of you. But that is how you build connection: allowing people to see you not only at your best, but also at your worst.

HSF — On the idea of holding space for someone in our personal lives, how can we do this while also preserving inner boundaries, knowing where we can help without neglecting our own needs, thoughts, opinions, beliefs?

VC — This is a complex question and too much for the space allotted, but I will say that it is definitely a skill that we can build. I have a course within NUSHU dedicated to exactly this practice called How to Hold Space. What it comes down to is building awareness inside of ourselves, so that we can show up for another person without getting muddled by our own fears and stories. It’s also about getting clear on what is our experience + what is the other person’s experience. Ironically, when you learn how to show up as a powerful space holder, you actually end up protecting yourself + your energy at the same time. It is not a zero sum game where you have to compromise yourself to show up for the other person. Building your skills of holding space ends up benefiting you both.

HSF — Self-care, all too often, seems to just about scratch the surface of the depth of who we really are + what we need. It’s been commercialised in every way now. Do you have any thoughts on what self-care truly means beyond the fluff + where people can begin to go deeper at an absolute level?

VC — Self care. It’s become such a buzz word hasn’t it + has been co-opted by the wellness industry to mean products + massages + other things that you can spend money on. That’s my first issue with self-care: that it’s become an industry. My second issue with self-care is that there’s this projection that there’s a one size fits all way of doing it. And it all has to do with more + better. More exercise is better, more meditation is better, more journaling is better, more supplements are better. When we can’t fulfill all of these “mores”, we end up feeling badly about ourselves. Self-care is about one fundamental thing: taking the time to pause + understand what you need to nourish you in the moment. And deciding that what you need matters. Sometimes it’s action + sometimes it’s rest. Sometimes it’s more exercise + sometimes it’s less. Sometimes it’s meditation + sometimes it’s permission to skip meditation. You cannot engage in self-care, while having a view on whether something is better or worse. The only question is: what do I need in this moment?

HSF — How do you maintain your own identity + honour your own place in this life beyond the natural requisites of the roles you play?

VC — That’s easy. It’s absolutely non-negotiable. I ask myself these four questions every day, all day: How do I feel? What do I need? What do I want? Who am I? When you ask this of yourself all the time you realize how important it is to honor the answers that come through. This practice makes it very clear when things in my life don’t align with the answers to those questions. If they don’t align, I have zero time for them. We have such a limited amount of time on this planet.  I believe that it is available to everyone to live a life of complete alignment, or as close as we can get to complete alignment with who we are. I will not waste a single moment of my energy doing anything that compromises that.

HSF — It seems the journey of self-discovery is the de-conditioning of what we’ve learned to become rather than who, perhaps, we authentically are. Do you feel this happens in different ways at each stage in a woman’s life + what has your experience been thus far?

VC — There’s a reason that many women go through a midlife crisis. There is a point at which the conditioning that has built up over a lifetime is so dissonant with who we are that our inner voice starts to scream at us that something has to change. It’s often a painful and messy. I went through it myself. But at some point we can no longer keep living a lie + pretending that the life we’ve built is the life that’s meant for us.

I think women in their 40s have this tremendous opportunity to start to claim who they are if they haven’t done so so far. For many motherhood breaks us wide-open. And for others, we finally realize we are sleepwalking through life + simply putting one foot in front of the other. We ask ourselves what the hell am I doing? Is this the way I’m going to live the rest of my life? These are the women I love to work with because I’ve been there I get it. And I want to say to them there is so much more for you. You can live a life that is alive + vibrant + exciting + fulfilling + full of close + intimate relationships with the people you love. You can show up for others + yourself at the same time.

HSF — And on that note, when we’ve found identity in parts of ourselves that no longer serve us, how can we detach from what we no longer need? 

VC — Again, there’s this beautiful way that when we discover who we truly are + become really grounded + rooted in that, it becomes very obvious what we need to shift + let go of. If that’s people, they may have a hard time + there may be pain or grief involved in that process, but our deep grounding in who we are allows us to weather any of those storms with both full conviction + tremendous love + compassion.

HSF — As humans we all exist constantly between the healer + the healed. There’s always someone ahead + someone behind, just as we are to others. Yet there is a lot of unsolicited advice, ‘expert’ opinions + sometimes dangerously authoritative directive information within the self-development + wellness space. Personally, the only thing that’s worked for me is trying a million things + compiling my own treasure box of what works. Do you have any advice for those in that place of total overwhelm? Where do people start?

VC — It’s not an easy road + you’re right it’s very crowded with conflicting messages. I would offer a couple of points of guidance. 

Number one. Steer clear of anyone who tells you what to do or what you should think or projects an aura of authority. Nobody knows what’s right for you but you. If somebody is trying to tell you that they know what is right for you, run in the other direction.

The second thing I would say is that if you really want to make change, you need to treat this like your full-time job. Now I’m not suggesting we quit our jobs. I’m suggesting that we are capable of multiple full-time jobs at the same time, especially women and mothers. My point is that you need to really prioritize this + take it seriously. It does not get relegated to the very last item on the list, the thing you get to once you’ve taken care of + satisfied everyone else’s needs. If you approach your own healing as a nice to have + not a must have, you will not make any changes. The first thing is you have to decide it matters. Then you fight for it.  There is so much healing just in the process of making that decision.

The third thing I‘d suggest is finding quiet from the noise of life today. It can feel sometimes near impossible, but how or where you find your feet most firmly on the ground between what requires your attentions speaks volumes.

I actually spend a ton of time alone in my home office. Once the kids go to school, I would say between 8 and 3 PM, I’m almost always alone + in the quiet. That’s what I need to fuel me as I’m very introverted. I pace myself in terms of energy output + being around people. I’ve gotten good at not over-filling my capacity, + my team is amazing in helping me protect my energy.  

HSF — Do you have any non-negotiables in your day?

VC — When you’ve got five kids + two businesses + a busy household to run, you have to be flexible. I have found that putting my stake in the ground about doing something at a certain time every day or even every day simply always gets upended. My nonnegotiable is that I am constantly checking in with how I’m doing: how I feel + what I need. I can be flexible to a point, but I’ve always got my own needs in mind, + I take care of myself. So yeah, I can go a day or two with not enough rest but then I make the space to get the rest I need. My nonnegotiable is that I never let my needs go unattended for long enough that I’m feeling resentful or burned out. I’m not always the first priority, but I’m always one of the priorities. Both the needs of my family AND my needs get taken care of, not always all at the same time but all eventually. I am absolutely in the mix of people who have needs that matter.  That is not negotiable.

HSF — Your favourite piece of advice or approach to your life by?

VC — The path to discovering yourself is paved with deep self honesty plus deep self compassion.

HSF — The book, movie, show + podcast that’s left a lasting effect..

VC — The book would be Razors Edge by William Somerset Maugham. Battlestar Galactica as a TV show + Elena Brower’s interview with Meggan Watterson on her Practice You podcast.  

HSF — What are you most interested in learning about at this stage in your life?

Me. 

HSF — What’s next for NUSHU? 

I’m working on a course for mothers to reclaim themselves that I’m really excited about. We also have a number of amazing retreats coming up. I would love for you to join us!

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Nadia Josse, The Interview

Think Winter 2020 - early 2021, in the midst of lockdown life, things were pretty bleak to say the least. While holding huge awareness of my immense privilege that I was safe + physically healthy, not forgetting the gratitude for the safety + wellbeing of my loved ones, I will admit that, like for millions of people the world over, it was a really moment where I needed to find new ways to stay well + on top of feeling good. Enter my introduction to Nadia Josse, cool-French-girl extraordinaire come breath-work practitioner, who upon realising I could actually attend her group classes from home here in Ireland (Nadia’s based in NYC), I booked right in + got my breath-work on. I’ve since attended, either live or on the recording sends out post the session, pretty much every group session she’s held along with some private 1:1s with Nadia who’s approach is kind + gentle with a technique that’s absolutely worth it’s weight in gold. On a personal level, it’s been a really powerful part of my collection of wellness tools over the past few years now + each time I work with Nadia, I go deeper + find that little bit more peace within. Here we speak about her journey into the space, how she sets herself up for success + what she does to get that glow.. (Nadia’s skin is the most glowing I’ve ever seen)

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HSF — Nadia, what brought you to begin your journey toward the wellness space + specifically to this beautiful practice of breath-work?

NJ — Moving to NYC was a huge catalyst for me. I had to find an output and a way to ground myself. I found a yoga practice, which slowly led me into Reiki, meditation and lastly Breathwork. 

HSF — Have you always been so passionate about your health or have there been challenges that afforded you a fresh perspective on what it means to feel good?

NJ — Yes I always nerded out on health books. I feel like in my 20’s I was trying to find myself. I tried a LOT of different modalities - I was vegan for a little bit, paleo, keto haha. I think my biggest challenge which eventually led me to really lean into a Breathwork practice was fertility and conceiving. I had to manage my stress, regulate my hormones and connect with my feminine energy. 

HSF — As you know, I’m a huge believer in your breath-work, having worked with you on a 1:1 level + attending so many of your group sessions but for those new to your work, can you explain the specific modality of breath-work you use in your teachings..

NJ — I teach a method that really focuses on emotional release. David Elliot and Erin Telford were my teachers. It’s a heart opening practice. Some people call is 3 steps breathing. It’s a way to release stuck energy and trauma from the body , reconnect with your truth and strentghten your intuition.

HSF — How has breath-work impacted your life? 

NJ — It’s changed my life but more than that it gave me confidence that I had the answers and the power to heal within me. I used to seek healers and gurus. People who would tell me what to do and who I was. 

HSF — For those new to breath-work, where or how do you suggest someone to begin?

NJ — Start with one of my group classes and then if you want to go deeper you can do 1-1 sessions or even try on your own.

HSF — Your career appears quite demanding with a lot of travel + big industry events.. yet you manage to make it all look so chic + elegant. What tips can you give for a demanding schedule, especially with traveling between time zones?

NJ — I plan, I do lists. I set myself up for success. I also have non-negotiable in the morning that set up the foundations for my day. I wake up early, I journal, meditate (depending on the days I would do a combo of meditation and Breathwork or one only) and then I exercise. If I’m traveling I’ll adapt and try to do a shorter version of all this. But sometimes that doesn’t work and that’s ok. I get back on my routine and feel great. 

HSF — What does your morning +/or nighttime routine look like?

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MORNING—

Wake up - make coffee 

Drink coffee / Journal

Meditation + Breathwork for 15 to 20 mins 

Tracy Anderson Class in Tribeca (my favorite workout) I sweat like crazy and I love it. 

Go home - cold shower, supplements (I take Lyma supplement, Cymbiotika Omega, B12 and D3)

Smoothie with plant protein, collagen (love Agent Nateur), Fiber (PaleoFiber), Creatine and L- Glutamine). 

And then I head to work! 

NIGHT —

I try to wind down early like 7:45. 

I do my skincare

I turn on my red light in my room with peaceful sounds (love my Lotfie alarm).

I take magnesium and gaba

I turn on my BioMat and read on it for 20/25 mins. 

I get into bed and sleep. I need the room to be VERY cold. 

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HSF — Let’s talk skin for one second.. yours is always glowing. Who or what are your secrets?

NJ — RED Light! Recently got the LYMA laser which I love. My facialist Cynthia Rivas (in NYC) uses Is Clinical products which I love. She has a very simple outlook on skin - no fluff no extra steps. KEEP IT SIMPLE! I see her once a month. Obviously I use retinol and SPF 365 days a year. IPL lasers and medical peels also helped my skin a lot. 

HSF — What one product could you not live without?

NJ — Is Clinical Pro Heal serum and their face wash. It’s the best. I also love Bioderma micellar water. Oh + ELTA MD tinted SPF.

HSF — A quick (but important) note on your style - again, always so chic. What is your personal style philosophy + how do you build out / invest in your wardrobe each season?

NJ — I don’t buy any Zara, Mango or cheap clothes. I prefer to wait and invest in a VERY good piece that will last me forever. My style has evolved a lot over the years. I really want to buy pieces that are not the “trendy” thing and that will last through the years.

HSF — You’re one of the coolest people to follow on Instagram; a style connoisseur + wellness aficionado, all with a killer career + the cutest family. How do you switch off though? Do you find the pull of social media + always being turned on a challenge? Where do you find balance in doing it all?

NJ — I delete instagram from my phone from time to time and I take a break. Right now it is very difficult to be on. It’s taking a toll on my mental health so I only use it to promote my classes and try to stay away. 

HSF — On a personal level, what do you hope to impart to those you teach + who’s lives you enlighten with your breath-work?

NJ — I just want for people to realize they can change and they hold so much power within. Breathwork is the ultimate tool for self discovery and self love.

HSF — The last book/ movie/ tv show/ podcast you loved?

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Podcast: I love the Armchair Expert with Dax Sheppard. Such great convos.

Book: I’m currently reading the Fourth Wing 

TV Show: Obsessed with a lot of shows - the last one I loved was Fleishman is in Trouble on Hulu

Movie: Triangle of Sadness 

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HSF — Your favourite piece of advice?

It’s not about you. So don’t take this personal. 

HSF — Nadia, what has been your proudest moment to date?

NJ — The birth of my baby. Unmedicated, beautiful and chaotic. 

HSF — What are you excited about for the future?

NJ — Continuing to teach, launching more online offerings and retreats. 

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Gifts That Keep On Giving - A Wellness Gift Guide

This isn’t your typical gift guide that people tend to share at this time year because, not to sound all righteous or holier than thou but I find the excess of Christmas + the consumerism around it to be quite upsetting. As someone who really considers what I purchase + what I use in my life, I hate the waste of things that not needed or wanted + the idea of gifting those I love with things I am only just hoping they will love or use. Also, let’s face it, most of us don’t need more ‘stuff’ so this guide is curated as I try to curate everything in my life with an evergreen approach + a conscious heart to shine light on the things I love + genuinely use in my everyday life that continue to give long after the wrapping has been recycled + the tree has been taken down for another year.

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‘The Elevator’ by SISTERLY

The Elevator is a supplement I’ve been taking for several months now + can absolutely say I am feeling the benefits of. Admittedly they are a client of mine but I had started using the product prior to that becoming a reality so my love for the brand is organic. SISTERLY is a unique product, something that was created with immense consideration for what the female physiology actually need (and just as much doesn’t need) + is scientifically led. What I’ve really noticed a few months into being on it is that in coming up to my period my PMS is usually like fire, taking me down rabbit holes tittled "my life is coming to an end” + other sort of dramatics. And a few months in I’m finding the PMS isn’t PMSing so hard. I also find that my skin is clearer, my hair + nails stronger + my sleep is showing up as a deeper kind of sleep on my Oura ring which - let’s be honest, who doesn’t need a little more energy these days. SISTERLY is a female founded brand, brought to life by three incredibly intelligent, aware, progressive + kind Irish women who sought to produce the best foundational supplement that would speak to the physiology of every female body (over 18) + in working with the best of the best - Dr. Daniel Jones - they cut absolutely no corners in producing ‘The Elevator”

Subscriptions are available with many options with a 1, 3, 6 or 12 month offerings.

Give her the gift of feeling great — SISTERLYLAB.COM

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A Voucher for Katie England Skin

This year while traveling over + back to London for my clients, I started seeing Katie England, the extraordinary facialist come all round beautiful human who.. let’s just say she KNOWS skin like no one else I’ve ever met. My best friend introduced me to Katie’s brilliance who, for the past number of years, has held a residency at the Nomad Hotel in Covent Garden, London. My absolute favourite hotel in the city too so it’s always even more fabulous going to see her. I’d been using various different products over the years + have always been a fan of certain brands, I was finding my skin wasn’t getting to be where I actually felt confident. And so with an openness to start all over again, I put my trust in Katie + we have been working on my skin each time I’m in London which has now become one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. As someone who has always felt incredibly uncomfortable in my skin, I am not joking when I say, I feel like that girl who actually glows when I come out of my treatment. I’ve never really truly felt that before. Thanks to BYONIK, Buccal + Katie’s mastery, I’ve been wearing no makeup some days + the progress I’m beginning to feel with my skin is all thanks to Katie + her magic hands + expert recommendations. Working with many different approaches, Katies creates bespoke treatments for each client depending on your specific needs + looks at the idea of gaining confidence in your skin with a long term strategy while giving you “homework” between sessions so that her work is even more beneficial when you’re in session with her. I cannot recommend Katie enough + for anyone you know who can book in while in London, this is the perfect gift that will continue to feel good for a long time to come.

Gift them confidence — KATIE-ENGLAND.COM

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A Sound Healing Session with Audrey O’Connor of CORESTATE

You might remember I spoke about sound healing earlier this year as something that’s come into my life a lot more over the past year or so. Something that lends itself to the deeply reparative + therapeutic, this modality of healing has been around for thousands of years + is finally catching on as something of great importance + benefit when it comes to dealing with trauma + the every day levels of stress that we all tend to be under these days. My dear friend Audrey is a sound healing practitioner + has started a Monday Sound Club where each Monday evening you can connect with Auds on her virtual classes. She also hosts in person workshops in Dublin which are like enveloping your entire being into a vortex of relaxation, safety + beauty. Her energy is a stunning mirror of her soul + you cannot go wrong in gifting someone you love with a voucher for CORESTATE. It’s a soul essential + again, something that lends itself to feeling great from the inside out.

Give the gift of healing — CORESTATE.COM

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Pieces on my Radar, Autumn Edition

Hellllllll yes. Winter is coming + every year I say the same thing, I’m such a Autumn Winter girl in body, mind, soul + wardrobe. My husband just recently said, ‘you’re not taking out all your coats are you?” - we live a minimally lead life but my coat collection is the major exception to this united philosophy so YES it’s time to take out all my winter wardrobe. Here too are some of the pieces I am loving + dreaming of this season..

Oversized Cuff Shirt by SERENA BUTE LONDON
£250

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Sambas in Suede Green by ADIDAS
€150

The Elevator by SISTERLY
On Subscription

Barrel Jeans by TOTEME
£225

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Cashmere hood by ARKET
€69

Cashmere sweater by & OTHER STORIES
€199

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Brushed knitted jacket by MARANT ETOILE
€555

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Cap Anthracite by LONGCHAMP
€125

‘The Rain’ Boot by TOTEME
€350

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Ann Tote by Ree Projects
€850

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Cashmere Zip Hoody by ME+EM
€385

Solace Double Breasted Coat by THE LANDSKEIN
€889

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The Piper Beanie by Janessa Leone
€87.95

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There Was One White Tee
€77

The Gentlewoman long sleeve tee by ARKET
€49

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Cashmere-blend jumper by H&M
€129

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Mock Croc Boots by MASSIMO DUTTI
€189

Val 90’sMid Rise Straigh Jeans by REFORMATION
€178

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The Eye Patches by AUGUSTINUS BADER
€19

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Cold Pressed Stem Cell Scalp Serum by ACT + ACRE
€88

Long-Sleeved Merino Top by ARKET
€49

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Oversized denim shirt by H&M
€36.99

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The Movement Baseball Cap by ALEX EAGLE
£35

Juno Ear Cuff by ENNUI ATELIER
€300

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October Musings

With a forward intention of beginning each month here on HAUTE so FABULOUS with an editors-style letter from me to you, a note on the theme of my thoughts, learnings, inspirations - a snapshot so to speak of each particular moment in time, I begin here today with my first monthly note in this Monthly Musings series. Thank you for being here, it is my wish that you find something that inspires you to feel less alone, something that - in whatever measure - enlivens your soul + evokes a sense of freedom to explore your own path more creatively invigorated. This is a place for me to learn + grow authentically, embracing all parts of me from the spiritually inclined to the Phoebe-Philo-launch-can't-come-fast-enough aspects of my being, in real time + where, most importantly, we can do that together.

I made it to my favourite reformer pilates class this morning + after a call with a potential new client, one whom I really hope it works out to work with as it just feels so Universally correct, I sit here writing this, cosy at home with the sound of raining pour heavily outside + my nice hot coffee (on tap) thanks to our new WILFA coffee maker which we are really loving. I might be one of a very tiny percentage of human beings alive who absolutely loves the fact that we are facing into what I consider to be the best time of year, the cosy promise of Autumn + Winter. I love this time of year + all that it represents; the assurance of restful hibernation + a nurturing safety blanket of intimate moments of home. The natural darkness or heaviness that comes with this seasonal change is something I find solace in while knowing, I guess, it will one day be brighter again. I find comfort too, perhaps, in the beginning + the end; the completion of things. Nature is confident in it’s inherently cyclical style of function + each season creates a trust with each rotation. Knowing nothing is forever is something I guess that lends itself to the ease with which we can deal with the shorter days + heavier mood of Winter. Also.. let me not forget a very serious truth too; that one little thing of the wardrobe - those who know me will know, I will take a winter coat over shorts ANY day of the year.

Something that happened me just this week was an experience I don’t know I’ve ever been even close to before. After a really positive work week where I met with new clients + continued on-going projects - both personal + professional, that dare I say.. I am incredibly proud of - I found myself, without an accustomed uncertainty that seems to permanently be fluttering around my head. Shutting my laptop on Friday post my final call of the day, it was with great calm + an internal ease I am not so familiar with that I got Winston (our fur baby) ready with his lead, popped my new BOOK into my tote (this STABLE one I’m loving) + without hesitation my legs somehow got me to the park where I seemed called to sit under a tree + actually relax to read my book. I understand this might seem incredibly basic + perhaps you’re thinking, wow this chick is so weird but for someone who’s monkey mind is in constant sh*t-chat at me that I should be doing this, that or the other, being productive at all times of the day, I found myself somewhat astonished at the level of ease with which I’d gotten there + was actually very much presently there. It was without the usual guilt or self-accusations of idleness in doing something simply for myself that I guess caught me off guard. The inner tranquility I experienced really rooted me in the moment + I found myself wondering how on earth I’d arrived at this sort of serenity on a random Friday evening. A lot of things is the answer. It’s the compilation of a whole host of varying things I’ve been doing (or working to let go of doing) that brought me to that momentary inner peace, all of which I aim to explore more openly with you here. To know this peace in the simple things, to me, is to know happiness. And it reminds me of the idea shared with me by my coach from New York around ‘blissful presence’. Isn’t that what it means to truly be alive, to be blissfully present in this moment? Friday evening definitely made me think so.

It feels as though I have to in some way round this post off in a particular way or add in some links to things I’m loving or what’s on my Wishlist but for this month, just the above alone feels correct. This series is where, as I said, I can step into my explorative self as a writer + be the person I am in whatever that looks like at any given time. And plus, this very much challenges in me my inner critic that tells me something has to be perfect for me to begin. Well here I am, imperfect but starting.

What would you begin if the illusion of perfect didn’t exist?

Designer Spotlight; The Landskein

The true meaning of a forever piece when it comes to matters of the wardrobe can often be somewhat of an impulsive idea, never mind a deeply disputable concept - what are the specifics of something being rewarded the promise of forever? Well, when considering something to last a lifetime, THE LANDSKEIN is my ultimate winter-wardrobe-investment destination. It is the beginning, the end + just about everything in between for the perfect forever winter coat selection - if you can hold yourself back + just choose one. Founded by Irish native, Anna Guerin, THE LANDSKEIN came about in 2018 with Guerin’s mission, along with 20 years experience in the fashion industry, to design + manufacture luxury textiles that, steeped in the beauty of home, will stand the test of time, season + occasion.

At the core of this contemporary tailoring brand is the commitment to honouring heritage Irish textiles at a beautifully detailed + consciously considered level, all impeccably designed within a modern aesthetic. Achieving this with such perfection, THE LANDSKEIN consists of luxuriously tailored coats, blazers + scarves, the core + seasonal collections of which embody an easeful sense of opulence with relaxed oversized cuts, drop shoulders + extended style lines. Each piece is hand cut + sewn from authentic Donegal tweed - all exclusive to THE LANDSKEIN - made by hand by fifth-generation weavers in Co. Donegal.

Married with the flawless quality + the sense of quiet luxury of this brand, for me it’s the unstructured silhouettes + the rich tones I just can’t resist. I own two beautiful pieces thus far, one blazer + one coat, both of which make me long all summer long for the colder moments we’re beginning to experience to fully envelope us for the seasons ahead. I’m a Autumn/Winter girl at heart + with AW ‘23 having just recently launched, you could say the new collection has reconfigured my personal style wishlist entirely, bumping the SOLACE coat right up top.

Stocked in luxury retailers such as Brown Thomas, HAVANA Boutique, Emporium Kalu + Peel or shop online directly at —THELANDSKEIN.COM

All images via THE LANDSKEIN

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Chic Gifts to Bring To a Dinner Party

Ensuring your of-course-its-home-made food is something of a spectacular delight, the company blends smoothly + the energy is flowing on the right frequency, there’s no doubt that hosting a dinner party is a whole thing. Yet being the guest who brings something interesting as a gift at such a dinner party is something of a thing too don’t you think. It can be difficult to know what to bring outside the obvious bottle of champagne or traditional box of chocolates, which of course are perfectly perfect too. It goes without saying that I get it, we’re alll in a rush, life is busy + perhaps you thought you had a bottle of great wine at home + so in rushing out the door, you realise a pit-stop at the off license is required en route. However in putting some thought into the act of preparation for you, I’ve compiled a selection of really chic + thoughtful gifts that go beyond the blatantly obvious options..

Parfum Discovery Selection Box — ROADS // €60

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Palais De Tokyo Incense — ASTIER DE VILLATTE // €50

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KEEP KISSING candle — ROADS // €65

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Incense Holder — ASTIER DE VILLATTE // €95

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The Creative Act; A Way of Being by Rick Rubin — SHOP HERE // €22

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Fig Tree Candle — CLOON KEEN // €45

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Chanel No.5, The Bath Soap — CHANEL // €35

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Essential Dining; The Dublin Edition I

Perhaps it happens people living in all cities that while discovering new places that blow you away in your own, you think.. wow you could be in *insert another city you consider chic AF*. Well this seems to have happened me a few times lately in Dublin while dining out. Taking in something that enveloped my senses right here on my doorstep, I was transported elsewhere - something I love + appreciate is where good food + great design works wonders in elevating the vibe of new experiences. And while, of course, I love my home city of Dublin, you sometimes can’t ignore that inner, well.. unintended snob, that comes alive when tricked into thinking you could be anywhere else.

So, yes Dublin has really been impressing me lately with hot spots where not only has the food most definitely been something to write home about but the vibes have been majorly on point too. A solid favourite (if three visits in two + a half weeks doesn’t scream obsessed I don’t know what does) is definitely ROW which, in my mind, gives New York, London and Paris a run for their money. The food is diviiiine.. like majorly wow + the atmosphere contests that of Raf’s in New York or perhaps The Barbary in London. Perfection in a nutshell.

Here are my favourite restaurants in Dublin right now..

ROW

As I mentioned above, ROW is unmissable. The latest venture of Dublin’s renowned brother-duo, Marc + Conor Bereen, ROW is elevated beyond words with a self proclaimed mission to “capture the imagination of Dublin’s cultured, well-traveled food + wine aficionados”; something they do with utter perfection.

Beyond an incredible wine selection that makes organic the only way, the menu at ROW consists of 8 - 10 plates plus a smaller collection of snacks all with fresh Irish produce weaving it’s way throughout the experience. One of the (yes three) times I was at the restaurant recently was with two of my cousins, visiting from NY. We ordered the entire menu + without fail, each plate spoke to us collectively as “the best dining experience we’ve had in a while”. And that’s saying a lot for three girls who all recently went wild on dining out in Manhattan while I was visiting them there. TOP of my list.

BOOK here at — BREENBROTHERS.COM/ROW

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THE BUTCHERS GRILL

I verge very closely to admitting total (albeit, nothing to do with Irish catholic) shame in myself that it took me forever to get my ass to this Dublin classic. I think I just always considered it a red meat joint simply for those who enjoy a really luxe steak. However, despite the many meals I could’ve enjoyed here had I not been so I don’t really eat red meat, it was worth the wait. Every bite. I went with a friend who loves a great steak + of course it doesn’t disappoint on that front but beyond that for those like me, the other selections of fish options are phenomenal. From gammas + tuna tostados that will break your heart, I was that annoying person that kept saying.. wow, like wooooow at every new bite. I mean, I’m late to this party but hell I will be here till the end.

Book here at — THEBUTCHERGRILL.IE

ORWELL ROAD

Ok, this one is another brainchild of Marc + Conor Bereen. ORWELL ROAD. Somewhere that had been on my list for quite some time, my Husband + I went on a date night here + loved it from beginning to end. Another place where it’s more than just great food, the atmosphere is intimate with an attention to detail that really shows in absolutely everything at ORWELL ROAD. A in saying that, in everything the Breen’s bring to life. One of the main focuses of the food is around sustainable sourcing which emphasises incredible Irish ingredients that, when brought together by head chef Daniel Hannigan, generate the essence of truly incredible dining without the fuss of the fine dining formalities. A delight in every way.

BOOK here at — BREENBROTHERS.COM/ORWELL-ROAD

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NOTE

One of the things I love most about going out for dinner is the idea of discovering new things, especially the vibe. I love somewhere where small/er plates are on point + the opportunity to taste + experience different dishes is on the cards. NOTE is just that. And then some. Energetic at it’s core, yet equally understated with a touch of European cool, this wine bar come bistro - super retro cool for Dublin - is a really sleek place for a date night or a long evening of slow eating enjoyed with friends. The food at NOTE is Mediterranean by nature with a menu of dishes bold + confident, leaving you considering ordering just about everything. The staff are so knowledgable, friendly + efficient which brought together with NOTE’s incredibly tasty food, a wine list worth it’s weight in gold + the perfect amount of retro vibes, is worth considering this your cue to book your table immediately..

BOOK here at — NOTEDUBLIN.COM

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ETTO

Since it’s opening in 2013, ETTO has remained top of all the lists as one of Dublin’s best restaurants. It’s been one of those that when anyone asks me, I recommend without a second of thought. A tiny sweet premises on Merrion Row ETTO has been ahead of the trend when it comes to small plates + a relaxed yet elevated dining experience since before it was cool to do something so “off “ the beaten track. With an emphasis on seasonal locally sourced ingredients, the menu is a delight for those who enjoy contemporary cooking in a manner of grazing a perfect selection of small plates or if you’re feeling it, the full-on cote de boeuf experience. Every time I’ve been to ETTO, I can’t help but fall in love with it a little more + can see just why this award-winning eatery remains top of the IYKYK list!

BOOK here at — ETTO.IE

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LUNA

We celebrated my birthday at LUNA this year + it was such a delight. I’d been meaning to go for years + simply just never got around to it with living abroad + then the pandemic turning life upside down. However, it was worth the wait + not just that it was my birthday. From the moment we arrived till the second we left, I couldn’t help but fall so in love with Dublin + the idea that we are becoming more + more a truly wholesome city with a cosmopolitan touch. First off, I want to note that the staff at LUNA were so incredibly beautiful in every way that I emailed the restaurant the following morning to commend them on the most hospitable experience we’d had in a long time. It can seem small but when you’re met with friendly + enthusiastic service staff who hold a well-educated knowledge of what they’re doing + the importance of kindness for the customer, it elevates dining out to another level. In recent time I’ve found you can often feel to be an inconvenience for staff when asking questions at a restaurant + this just wasn’t the case. Kindness always always blows me away. And that was just the beginning of a very memorable experience at LUNA. The food was insane. We did the tasting menu + not one thing disappointed. Paired with exceptional cocktails.. I mean like, exceptional, we left on a happy-tummy high of the perfect amount of plates tested + loved + cocktails to literally write home about. I highly recommend LUNA if you’re looking for somewhere to celebrate a special occasion or are in town for a visit.

BOOK here at LUNA-RESTAURANT.COM

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AMY AUSTIN

AMY AUSTIN is the perfect amount cool paired with ample amounts of sh*t-hot-not-to-be-missed wine bar + restaurant to add to your Dublin hit-list!! The ideal little spot to get some time with your girl over some delicious small plates + a really great glass of wine, it’s got that European aura down to a tee. Casual on the fashionable side, AMY AUSTIN is splendidly intimate with capacity for just 30, loud but vibe-y music that brings the atmosphere of sassy sophistication to life + a menu that in ordering jut the right amount leaves you with a yearning to return pronto. Again, another place where the staff are incredibly helpful + friendly, it’s mission to burst with energy at every level is achieved with sheer we-re-not-even-trying-to-be-this-cool excellence. Loved a summer evening here with a friend + absolutely recommend.

Book here at AMYAUSTIN.IE

Consistency within the Uncertainty of a Depressed Mind

In piecing together thoughts on my own mental health it comes with a slight (ok, a rather huge) unease of coming across as moan-y or self-obsessed. Yet in putting that to the side as much as my brain possibly can + pushing through that naked vulnerability fear, here we go. Again.

So you may already have read some of my pieces on, or heard me speak about, my personal journey with depression + eating disorders as a result of childhood trauma. While thankfully I’ve made massive strides over the years I will admit, it’s been a bloody long road, one that I seem to either be trudging along with whatever strength I can muster - a power that seems to dwindle + simultaneously strengthen each time I’m sucked back into the downward spiral of depression - or in the other very much welcomed less intense times, you’ll find me on a path nearby - loving every moment, day, week + hopefully month of actually living.

This year has seen me more often than not on the bathroom floor of cafe d’epresso - as I call it. A state of depressed where I find myself lacking the ability to see beyond any current state + sometimes in a frightening depth of a type of despair I don’t really know how to voice or explain without sounding like I’m seeking attention or being too dramatic, other than to say, it’s brought me to an edge I’d known before, yet the very edge I hadn’t so seriously found myself at in many years + it scared me. It really scared me.

I feel the need to write this, not just for you who might also find yourself in those dark places + in need of a reminder, but for myself, both future + present, so I can read my own words + remind myself of what I CAN do + what DOSE work when faced with the blindness.

Ultimately.. I know, I know, I am getting there I promise, the point of this piece + the point I’m getting to understand more + more is that even in times when it seems like nothing works to alleviate the absence of hope or ignite any amount of lightness, what I can share with 100% certainty is there is one thing. Consistency. One thing that works is to practice consistency. Small, baby steps - as my loving Husband + best friend remind me of daily - made consistently is exclusively the only way to move through + eventually beyond the debilitating stagnant state depression often causes. Whatever you can or wish to be consistent with is up to you. And whatever it is, is enough.I know options don’t really help in those times so for me there’s a list of positive things that I know will help me once I get to doing them consistently. And even if the consistency isn’t in one particular thing but rather in doing one thing on your list.

I can relate too, if you find yourself thinking, but like FFS Rebecca nothing works + there’s nothing that makes any real difference when you’re this low. I get it. I say these very words + feel it myself when I’m there. It’s some weird phenomenon that I can’t ever quite get my head around too that when I’m in a serious state of depression, the very thing I know, when in the whole of my health, helps if I do it each day, is the exact thing I can’t seem to bring myself to do or implement in my routine. Getting up + actually showering, getting dressed + taking our dog for a walk WILL make things a tiny bit better when done daily - but your brain comes in + says, but what is a tiny bit better when the depths of this shit is so deep it’s like trying to let the light of a pocket torch, shone from the opening of a well, reach 10 miles under ground. It’s seemingly impossible + makes absolutely no difference. So what’s the point? There is none, says the brain.. And plus you don’t have the energy. I manage to shower one day, promising myself I’ll do it again tomorrow + yet days pass + I can’t seem to get myself undressed + under the water again. The simple things are crippling never mind having to keep up with + uphold a life that I love. Trust me, I get it. The overwhelming sense of confusion + frustration too at not being able to bring yourself to do the things that work.. what is that?! you say. And then, the guilt. The f-ing guilt.

HOWEVER, in relating to all that, I bring it back to the basics of consistency + the fact that the only way forward is tiny steps made with commitment despite how you feel on in the inside. I think too, it’s about leaning into the most simple things + asking for help where you can, not thinking you can do it all in one go or go from zero to one hundred with a day or a week. If managing the shower daily or getting the go for a walk each morning is your daily thing, then be proud of that. And for other things that will help, perhaps you can bring them in a few times a week + over time, the brain definitely begins to notice that oh she’s still able to do the things despite how she’s feeling.. that’s progress.

I know this isn’t rocket science + I certainly don’t claim to be a genius. And it can all feel beyond the bounds of possibility but I recently journaled of how it’s the consistency of doing the small things that will bring about a glimmer of lightness, not in a quick-fix manner but over time because let’s be real, doing it once won’t make any real difference however with persistence, you begin to feel a shift.

Again I’m no authority + certainly don’t claim to have all the answers but what if, in doing one thing daily - be that whatever you need - imagine where you might be in a week, a month or a year. And screw it, even if I’m still depressed, at least I might have clean hair + fresh clothes on. Consistency. Patience. Growth.

Positive Productivity or Toxic Busyness?

“How are you?” Is a question asked trillions of times a day, one that has absolutely nothing to do with the activities of our daily lives. In it’s literal meaning, it’s intention is to find out how the person really is, how they are doing as a person. How many times though have you (I include myself in this entirely) answered with “oh god I’m so busy”. But busy isn’t how someone is doing as a person it’s what they’re doing.. and not too effectively so.

Almost to the point of breaking out in a rash, I find myself quite allergic to the culture that celebrates busyness or hustle. Western society is fast paced by nature, that I get. Yet at a very deep level in recent decades we’ve been seduced by the association of success along with a sense of deep self worth in how “run off our feet” or how hard we work. What is that though? What does busy even mean? Is it actually a badge of honor? I think not. It reminds me of the toxicity of the hustle culture, of how it used to be silently admired to sleep as little as possible. Just look up the #5amclub on Instagram + there is an endless ‘club’ of early risers under pressure to do it all before 9am. As an early riser myself, I love my mornings too + I definitely sometimes fall for the thinking that I must achieve a certain amount before a certain time in the day but why on earth do we believe that unless we’ve written a book, cleaned the house, walked the dog, exercised AND prepped dinner for tonight (and Jesus, this is just me as someone who doesn’t even have kids so kudos to all the Mums reading this) all before others are waking then, well, what are we doing with our lives? Come on people, chop chop! And perhaps this is all just me but it seems that unless we are busy achieving or doing something - most times, just anything, regardless of how productive it may be - we fear it might equate us with the failure linked to the dreaded idea of laziness or not being triumphant on the road to greatness. Dramatic no?! And man is it tiring.

In thinking about this deeper a lot overt the past number of years, I realise busyness for me is often more about being occupied rather than, despite it’s mask of deep deception, actually getting things accomplished. It’s a lack of self-care or prioritisation of what is actually your priority + instead simple an act in itself of nothingness. Within it, I know too there’s a whole rabbit hole on a lack of boundaries which .. well for me, is definitely one of the many work-in-progress things I’m personally working on. I notice in myself though, it’s many times simply a deterrent from what I’m meant to be doing or what direction I genuinely want to be taking or the things I wish to be implementing into my life. It’s a type of procrastination. And perhaps a distraction for some of us? When I used to really believe in the idea that I should be busy all the time without really knowing why other than it seemed to be what society valued, it was me running around more than anything. Filling my time with things that must get done + letting anyone take up my valuable time because god forbid, desire how busy I was no way could I ever say no to anyone. Very conceivably too I can see it was me running away from me. But that’s a whole other article. Finding a sense of identification in the busyness is unhealthy + causes a loss of that very important connection to self that a solid, happy + successful life requires. Furthermore, I’ve found myself really finding more meaning in my days + the work I do since developing my allergy to busy; in reality, the way in which I consciously choose to spend my time, not to mention the boundaries I put in place to allow for that really put a lot into perspective of what’s important. It’s about time management in a very structural way + for most of us, the idea of work these days isn’t as linear as it once was, especially, if like me, you’re a Millennial who works for yourself or that WFH life is the new normal. You get to choose. And thankfully, time now holds more personal value these days, something I’m very much here for. I’m aware this isn’t the case for everyone but at some level we can, or at the least seek to, structure our work around our life instead of the other way around. Let the hassle of the hustle go. Let’s value efficiency over busy - like what we can actually achieve when focused within a concentrated time? Let’s value the quality of the work we do rather than the perceived time we’re stuck grinding through what needs to get done. And dare I say it, let’s value the idea of LIVING for ourselves, for what we want to do + who we want to be rather than allowing our time or lives be dictated by + dedicated to others all the time.

Let’s be real too, nobody is ever going to say on their deathbed, wow what a life, I wish I had been at my laptop more or jeez, I really should have spent more time working - it will always be about the quality of how we decided to spend our time in this life, the people we loved + the memories created within it all, the places we were lucky to experience, the connections we felt + the moments of calm that brought us deeper levels of meaning + perhaps, the mots important thing of all will be the in we hopefully made those we met feel good about themselves.

Stop glorifying the struggle. Seek to manage your time more efficiently. Get productive with a focus. Busy isn’t a thing to establish your place or your worth in this world upon. You are worthy simply because you breathe. That is all it requires. And with that, I will leave it there. Something to think about + perhaps something, I hope, to remind you that what we pack our days with, how we spend the moments, is literally what makes up a life.

Conscious Beauty; Seabody

You’ve most likely encountered SEABODY, the luxury Irish beauty + wellness brand on a mission to evolve the market's approach to wellness without harming the planet? Fear not though, for if you haven’t, this is where your next wellness/beauty-love-story can begin. Over the past year or so the brand has been making its way into my world personally, from my supplement routine + my preferred hero skincare products to the brand’s newest launch at a spa level. And quite honestly, I’m most definitely here the entire SEABODY experience.

From a beauty gel cleanser + elixir style serum to supplements that support movement, bone + joint health along with beauty + skin health, the SEABODY product range works to bring the healing powers of the Atlantic waters right into your daily world. Co-founded by powerhouse Dr. Helena McMahon who possesses a BSc in Biomedical Science along with an MSc in Molecular Medicine, SEABODY is primarily a biotech company creating products in the wellness + beauty space that not only sound amazing + look chic (AF) but actually truly work. The realisation of Dr. McMahon + her team of passionate biochemists who, in unison, believe strongly in the power of a variety of native Irish seaweeds + sea plants, the formulation process follows the harvesting of the chosen plants from the waters of the Wild Atlantic Way, followed by their refinement + the extraction of their many wonderful molecules, all of which solidifies the foundation of the SEABODY product range.

Having very much ticked the box of quality for the consumer, SEABODY goes on to care very deeply for what their manufacturing does to our planet. You will find the brand far beyond the sometimes surface-level idea of sustainability that brands now have to, at the very least be seen to conform to, be it just for perception purposes or you hope at a more genuine level. At SEABODY, they not only got the sustainability memo but they implement it like it’s a religion. Their emphasis on the abundance of natural + effective resources so nature generously affords us along with their long-term approach to the utilisation, management + protection of each + every component of a SEABODY product is almost unparalleled in the industry.

As part of their growth, the brand most recently partnered with one of the most notable Irish institutions of luxury, the exquisitely elegant + desirable Dromoland Castle where they have created bespoke treatments for as part of the newly renovated The Castle Spa at the magnificent destination. I was honoured to visit recently where I was treated to the SEABODY Touch Facial. A divine encounter with luxury where every single moment + each detail was thought through thoroughly + taken care of in a very distinct + defined way. The effective nature of the products married with the tranquil + calming atmosphere of the spa which is like nothing I’ve encountered, it was something of an escape for the mind, body + soul. Dromoland Castle is definitely on my list of places to return as any experience, from this special treat to our friends wedding, has simply been exceptional, leaving you wanting more yet equally fulfilled.

And so, despite being someone who most definitely can often be drawn into new beauty or wellness products based on first impressions of the aesthetic, I can most definitely say that I stay with SEABODY for it’s quality + their considering of every element + each minute detail. The SEABODY philosophy may be science led with an approach that notably works + I just can’t help but loving it for how it all makes me feel: great from the inside out.

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What Is.. Sound Healing

In the past year or so I’ve been so blessed to experience sound healing on a really deep level. A very close friend of mine Audrey, the founder of CoreState, is a qualified Sound Healer + she’s been so kind to do some bespoke sessions with me, tailoring the direction of each to my specific needs at each given session.

I am a huge believer in so many wellness modalities + practices, implementing many into my own life on a daily, weekly basis. But with this particular one I will admit that before my more recent experiences of sound baths with Audrey, I understood the practice to be a more fanciful type of self-care - something I always loved however, somehow not as justifiable in my mind as say my weekly therapy call or my gym membership + rather something of an occasional indulgence. It felt, to me, like more of an expensive way to take a nap as I’ve always found myself drifting off in any of the sessions I’d been to over the years. Despite this though, I always felt a sense of inner calm coming out the other side. And man, is it so much more than an expensive nap I’ve come to believe. It’s deeply healing. The more I’ve practiced the more I’ve realised the deeper meaning of it + the benefit of it’s not-so-woo-woo magic.

Sound healing, or therapy, might seem like it’s just popped up in recent times but it is in fact an ancient holistic healing practice that holds many therapeutic values. As humans we have used sound as a way to communicate, express, celebrate, heal + restore for thousands of years, transcending cultures, geography + belief systems. From the ancient mantras of yogic + Tibetan practices to more modern ways like The Haka, a sound + dance ritual performed by the New Zealand rugby team at the beginning of each game to showcase, in ceremony, their courage + determination. At a basic yet powerful level, think about how music can change the way you feel, it can help shift a dark + heavy mood into something more tolerable; taking us from overwhelm to a somewhat calmer state. Sound has been healing us for a long time.

Sound baths are an elevated version of this. Now backed by science, the point of sessions like an actual sound bath is to bring us, as entire beings, from imbalance into balance. To encourage a homeostasis state. The practice works wonders to switch on the parasympathetic nervous system, something I’m understanding more + more of late + the importance of it’s activation in nurturing the rest + digest side of our system which is becoming more vital with this very fast paced, high stress world we find ourselves in 2023.

And not only is it something for the soul to enjoy + explore, for anyone slightly on the more cynical side of the fence, it is scientifically proven to work on a cellular level. The sounds + vibrations of this modality are essentially frequencies created by + flow through the tools used by your practitioner that enter the conscious + subconscious, the physical + subtle energy fields within + around our body encouraging a state of wholeness. Reducing stress in general is a positive thing of course but at this cellular level the body + mind reap a lot of very tangible + long-lasting rewards. From regulation of the immense system, slowing the heart rate, supporting the production of melatonin which aids in a natural sleep flow along with lowering blood pressure, the prolonged effect is that it nurtures the longevity + quality of our mind, body + life in gerneral. For my fellow sleepers, I’ve also learned that dosing off is a sign of going deep while in a sound bath so it may, in one way, act as a nap but it’s definitely an elevated + high healing one so don’t worry about nodding off during a session.

Check out Audrey’s work HERE where you can book in with her for a private session, attend one of her groups or online classes.

Interested + Interesting; Podcasts I've Got On Repeat

CHANEL CONNECTS

Now in it’s third season, CHANEL Connects features global thought leaders, artists, + creators in a series of eight episodes released weekly. Devoted to the profound questions + conversations that shape culture today + define its tomorrow, CHANEL Connects pairs two visionaries in each 25-minute episode for an intimate conversation that interrogates: the intersection of technology and imagination, fact + fiction in autobiography, the power of collectives, cinematic inspiration, and more. CHANEL Connects fosters unscripted exchanges between brilliant minds at the edge of innovation on universal themes that touch us all.

LISTEN on SPOTIFY OR APPLE PODCASTS

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TABLE FOR TWO with BRUCE BOZZI

For decades, Bruce Bozzi worked at the highest end of the service industry, managing his family’s storied restaurant, The Palm. And if he learned one thing, it’s that the best parties always end up in the kitchen. Table for Two is based on that premise, and on the friendships Bruce has forged along the way with some of the most well-known people in Hollywood, media, and beyond. Over the romance of a meal at one of his favorite restaurants, Bruce interviews a special guest and seeks to untangle the intricate web of power and fame. Tune in for Table for Two—like all the best dinner parties, it’s intimate, a bit conspiratorial, and a whole lot of fun.

LISTEN on SPOTIFY or APPLE PODCASTS

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MORE THAN ONE THING

More Than One Thing will pull back the curtain on successful creatives whose journeys appear seemingly perfect. They are not. No one, if they are being truthful, has it all figured out. I want to highlight those multi-hyphenates who are open enough to share their grit. Through a series of interviews, More than One Thing reveals how each guest broke societal norms, found a way to climb outside that perfectly packaged box of expectations and found success in not just one thing, but many. This is a place for advice on how to design your dream life.

LISTEN on SPOTIFY or APPLE PODCASTS

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AIRMAIL MORNING MEETING

Morning Meeting is where AIR MAIL’s Ashley Baker and Michael Hainey take you inside the stories people are talking about this week—and tip you off to the ones the editors are talking about for next week. We cover the people shaping your world that you want to know more about (and more often the stuff they don’t want you to know about). And we talk with friends of AIR MAIL—writers, reporters, and style-setters. So listen in every Saturday as Morning Meeting brings you what’s new and exciting from the world of AIR MAIL. 

LISTEN on SPOTIFY or APPLE PODCASTS

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Some Thoughts on Wardrobe Investments

In certain perspectives - not naming names here but .. my Husbands, investments are all about long-term thinking + what the market is doing over an extended timeframe. Here at HAUTE so FABULOUS it’s kiiiind of similar, ok less about shareholders + dividends or IPO’s + good ROI’s + more along the lines of CPW’s + capsule collections that make your girlfriends do a double take. Like a really stone androgynous look that serves up a vibe + dart placements that work just right. Quality over wuantity, when it comes to wardrobe investments, it is about the chic that will stand the test of time.

Taking a long-term vision when it comes to your wardrobe is key in building a long standing + well-established classic collection that works for you whatever the season, reason or your personal mood or style - all of which can evolve without restrictions. When it comes to building a really reliable wardrobe, I’m a huge believer in investment pieces that work within a vast array of situations + parts of your life; things that not only stand the test of what’s on trend at any given moment but pieces that serve up some major wows no matter how many times, occasions or seasons they may see or be spotted. And within the long-term vision of investments, it’s also about those pieces you trust will hold their value for when you may fall out of love with them or they simply aren’t your vibe anymore. Like I said, we evolve + so does our sense of self. Style isn’t a permanent thing. It’s transient + continues to flow as we progress into a more confident + content or perhaps just different place in ourselves; with that we don’t need to hold on to what no longer feels like us or brings us joy. I have always been selling pieces on consignment + preowned luxury platforms over the last few years with this philosophy in mind + the attitude that I don’t mind investing a little more in what I know I will wear a lot + that will be snapped up in a second within the pre-loved market.

Along with consignment stores or online pre-loved market, something to consider when building your wardrobe is the gift of great sample sales. Sample sales are the best. Earlier this year for instance, I bought two new pieces from a luxury coat label I love even though it was almost summer, I know they will be amazing come Winter. They did a one off sample sale + it was incredible to pick up new pieces I know I will have for life regardless. Websites to consider for luxury items with a discount too are GILT, where items can be found for 60% off. THE OUTNET is one I search on a lot; with up to 75% discounts on premium brands from the YOOX Net-A-Porter group.. what’s not to love!

But whether it’s a straight up new purchase, something with an irresistible discount, sample sales or a pre-loved purchase, some important questions to ask yourself when it’s an investment for you are:

• Is this “me” beyond this exact season or reason of purchase - will I wear it season on season +to many different events?

• Have I thought about it for a while or am I being impulsive? When it’s a big purchase I leave it for a while to make sure I keep coming back to it + am not simply lusting but truly in love.

• Is what I’m looking for available on any of the pre-loved websites + stores who all work incredibly hard to make fashion more sustainable? Do I really need to own it new? Like really!!

• Can I wear it day + night? Dress it up + down? Does it have scope beyond that initial love at first sight?

• Does it go with around 4-5 looks I wear often if it’s an every day item?

• If I do eventually fall out of love with it which is so possible, does it have a good resale market?

Check out some of my favourite ONLINE PRE-LOVED PLATFORMS

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The  T H O U G H T  // “Let go or be dragged” - someone very smart said this to me recently + it’s wisdom really settled into my being. We can hold on to the things that have been but it’s a choice as it comes with the understanding that in holding on to them they can, + most likely will, continue to effect us at a very conscious + deeply subconscious level. The effects of old shit trapped in our bodies can do untold damage too, both to our physical + mental well-being. OR as another choice (however uneasy it can feel at times) we can let it go of what no longer really matters or serves us in our current direction in life so as to become a more empowered version of ourselves; living + loving with freedom of what has happened. I love the idea of holding agency over our inner world + the fact that in choosing to let go of things, we choose autonomy over every aspect of our world that we have the power to direct.

The  P O D C A S T  // “The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling’ is an audio documentary that examines some of the most contentious conflicts of our time through the life and career of the world’s most successful author. In conversation with host Megan Phelps-Roper - author of the incredible book Unfollow which I also recommend if you haven’t already read it, J.K. Rowling speaks with unprecedented candor + depth about the controversies surrounding her—from book bans to debates on gender and sex. The series also examines the forces propelling this moment in history, through interviews with Rowling’s supporters and critics, journalists, historians, clinicians + more.

The  D O C U M E N T A R Y  // Jane Fonda In Five Acts. I’ve always held such admiration for Jane Fonda. She’s lived a life of immense self-truth, resilience + embodied a remarkable fight for justice on things that might not immediately impact her world yet do the life of others in ways unimaginable. Her activist work has been unparalleled in any other celebrity in the past 100 years + this documentary really helps you get to know not just that part of her life but the story of her personal life, relationships + motherhood.

The  A R T I C L E //  ‘The fashion magazine on the front line’ by Jo Ellison of the FT who speaks of + with the newly appointed editor of Ukranian Vogue, Venya Brykalin who brings to light the reality of fashion + what it means for any given time : to tell the story + inform on the really happenings of culture at any given time; something that is often all too lost now in the age of logos, logos, logos + the tackiness of what the majority of fashion has evolved into.

The  M O V I E // War Pony. I’ve had a slight girl-crush on Riley Keogh for forever. And when she recently starred in Daisy Jones + The Six I must admit, the crush only deepened. War Pony is her directorial debut + tracks the lives of two young Indigenous men while cementing Riley Keough + her directorial partner in the project Gina Gammell, as serious talents to watch.

The B O O K // The Colony by Audrey Magee. There are few words but to say wow. I truly adored this book + highly hiiiiighly recommend. I literally can’t quite say any more than that as it left me in awe of it’s beauty + strength.

The  R E C I P E // Go Banana’s smoothie - the most simple yet incredibly nourishing + delicious smoothie I’ve got on repeat lately using Hush & Hush’s PlantYourDay Super Greens Protein Powder. You can find the recipe here at AGENCY FOURTEEN - super simply + such a delight.

The W E L L - B E I NG   P R A C T I C E // One of the things I’ve found helpful as part of my wellness routines these past few months is celery juice every day.  While I’m currently away on some summer travels, I am really missing it but when I’m home in my own environment with my juicer at hand, celery juice is a non-negotiable. It is great for reducing inflammation in the body, especially the gut, it is a great source of important vitamins + minerals + also improves digestion as a result of how cleansing it is to the gut. I absolutely love this addition to my daily routine.

The PLACE // The Hamptons. I’ve been going out to the Hamptons for nearly 20 years + I’m just back from two weeks there with family which was so much fun. I am in the process of piecing together the HAUTE so FABULOUS Hamptons guide so stay tuned.

The BRAND // Lelet, a stunning accessories brand based in New York is something of a mircale I stumbled across recently while in the city. Mainly known for their hair pieces, Lelet pieces are designed + created in the brand’s studio, all by hand, in NYC. Chic + very unique, a Lelet piece elevates the meaning of accessorising your fit whether it’s by day or by night.

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