Perspective in life is something so subjective + entirely personal to each individual. It’s a unique frame of mind that forms from experience + something, that, in a heartbeat can change forever. Having recently gotten married to my Love, I’ve been reflecting quite a lot about the past few weeks + the lead-up to the day; a time that, on a personal level, brought to light the values I hold close to my heart + the deeply ingrained perspectives life has afforded me + us as a couple. Something, all these years later, I couldn’t be more grateful for.
Planning a wedding is a luxury in life yet SO many people kept saying to me in the time prior, “wow you must be so stressed”. I heard it so many times that I began to wonder, why am I not stressed? Am I supposed to be? Are we missing something?
As someone who comes from the heart on everything in life, I don’t wish to sound in any way unromantic but weddings themselves are an industry - one that thrives on placing a lot of pressure on couples to be perfect in every single way on the day. I’m not one to conform + yes people thought I was so crazily relaxed about it all but perspective kicked in big time + hey.. flowers are flowers. It didn’t matter that I only began shopping for my dress 5 weeks before the day + that it eventually arrived 48 hours prior to walking down the aisle. Everyone enjoyed the beautiful food even though we didn’t do a single tasting before. I didn’t need to book my hair + makeup a year in advance as I previously thought was mandatory for ‘bridal’. Nor did it matter that we only secured the most beautiful singer for the ceremony 36 hours before it. Things worked out; they worked because we reminded ourselves of what’s actually worth getting stressed about in life + happy times simply aren’t one of them. And while yes I’m known to love a chic aesthetic + I very much know what I like in that department - the truth is, simply being with those we love on the day was pretty much everything to us. My only one request of anyone close to me was that nobody got stressed about anything because, we all know, there are way bigger problems in the world than whether my dress fit absolutely perfectly or whether the orchids were the perfect white. Truly, I mean what a luxury it is to even consider such things at all.
There are things to get stressed about + there are things to enjoy + our wedding was one I chose, very consciously, to enjoy with all my heart.
This photo above was us heading to a family dinner the night before. In keeping a realistic perspective on the day itself + intentionally prioritizing it’s meaning - which of course is to BE married to my person in life - I found such a sense of immeasurable calm along with a deep excitement in knowing that I am actually with the person I love the most in this world, a feeling that lasts long after the 24 to 48 hours of celebrations that, no matter how perfect they were + how much we really loved every single second of it all with everyone, are just a touch in the ocean of forever with the one you love.
To all the ‘brides to be’ out there, I highly recommend letting go of any stresses you think are worth getting caught up in. It will all be beautiful. It does go fast though so grab every second with all your heart + remember, stressing about the little things means you miss the most precious moments of all.
